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2 Samuel 13

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2 Samuel 13

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132 Samuel 13

The Rape of Tamar

113 Now David's son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. 2Ammnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her. 3But Amnon had a very crafty friend—his cousin Jonadab. He was the son of David's brother Shimea.* 4One day Jonadab said to Amnon, 6What's the trouble? Why should the son of a king look so dejected morning after morning?” So Amnon told him, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.” 5“Well,” Jonadab said, “I'll tell you what to do. Go back to bed and pretend you are ill. When your father comes to see you, ask him to let Tamar come and prepare some food for you. Tell him you'll feel better if she prepares it as you watch and feeds you with her own hands.” 6So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. And when the king came to see him, Amnon asked him, “Please let my sister Tamar come and cook my favorite dish* as I watch. Then I can eat it from her own hands.” 7So David agreed and sent Tamar to Amnon’s house to prepare some food for him. 8when Tamar arrived at Amnon’s house, she went to the place where he was lying down so he could watch her mix some dough. Then she baked his favorite dish for him.?But when she set the serving tray before him, he refused to eat. “Everyone get out of here,” Amnon told his servants. So they all left. 10Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the food into my bedroom and feed it tome here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish to him. “But as she was feeding him, he grabbed her and demanded, 11Come to bed with me, my darling sister.” 12“No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such wicked things aren’t done in Israel. 13Where could I go in my shame? And you would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the king about it, and he will let you marry me.” 14But Amnon wouldn't listen to her,and since he was stronger than she was, he raped her. 15Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at her. 16"No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what you've already done tome.” But Amnon wouldn't listen to her. 17He shouted for his servant and demanded, “Throw this woman out, and lock the door behind her!”; 18So0 the servant put her out and locked the door behind her. She was wearing a long, beautiful robe,* as was the custom in those days for the king’s virgin daughters. 19But now Tamar tore her robe and put ashes on her head. And then, with her face in her hands, she went away crying. 20Her brother Absalom saw her and asked, “Is it true that Amnon has been with you? Well, my sister, keep quiet for now, since he’s your brother. Don’t you worry about it.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in her brother Absalom’s house. 21When King David heard what had happened, he was very angry.* 22And though Absalom never spoke to Amnon about this, he hated Amnon deeply because of what he had done to his sister.

Absalom’s Revenge on Amnon

2323Two years later, when Absalom’s sheep were being sheared at Baal-hazor near Ephraim, Absalom invited all the king’s sons to come to a feast. 24He went to the king and said, “My sheep-shearers are now at work. Would the king and his servants please come to celebrate the occasion with me?” 25The king replied, “No, my son. If we all came, we would be too much of a burden on you.” Absalom pressed him, but the king would not come, though he gave Absalom his blessing. 26“Well, then,” Absalom said, “if you can’t come, how about sending my brother Amnon with us?” “Why Amnon?” the king asked. 27But Absalom kept on pressing the king until he finally agreed to let all his sons attend, including Amnon, So Absalom prepared a feast fit fora king.* 28Absalom told his men,“ Wait until Amnon gets drunk; then at my signal, kilt him! Don’t be afraid. I’m the one who has given the command. Take courage and do it!” 29So at Absalom’s signal they murdered Amnon. Then the other sons of the king jumped on their mules and fled. 30As they were on the way back to Jerusalem, this report reached David: “Absalom has killed all the king's sons; not one is left alive!” 31The king got up, tore his robe, and threw himself on the ground. His advisers also tore their clothes in horror and sorrow. 32But just then Jonadab, the son of David's brother Shimea, arrived and said, “No, don’t believe that all the king’s sons have been killed! It was only Amnon! Absalom has been plotting this ever since Amnon raped his sister Tamar. 33No, my lord the king, your sons aren't all dead! It was only Amnon.”?4Meanwhile Absalom escaped.

her behalf because he had gotten rid of the servants. His crimedestroyed her chances of marriage—because she was no longera virgin, she could not be given in marriage.

Then the watchman on the Jerusalem wall saw a great crowd coming toward the city from the west. He ran to tell the king, “I see a crowd of people coming from the Horonaim road* along the side of the hill.” 35“1ook!” Jonadab told the king. “ There they are now! The king's sons are coming, just as I said.” 36They soon arrived, weeping and sobbing, and the king and all his servants wept bitterly with them. 3”7And David mourned many days for his son Amnon.. Absalom fled to his grandfather, Talmai son of Ammihud, the king of Geshur. 38He stayed there in Geshur for three years. 39And King David, now reconciled to Amnon’s death, longed to be reunited with his son Absalom.*

Textual footnotes

  1. royal city.
  2. algo called Molech, was the god of the Ammonites.
  3. brought out the people of Rabbah and put them under.
  4. Scrolls and Greek version add But he did not punish his son Amnon, because he loved him, for he was his firstborn.
  5. to turn the incident into a public scandal. Secretly, he planned
  6. to take revenge against Amnon himself. This he did two years
  7. later (13:23-33). Absatom told Tamar the crime was only a
  8. family matter. But God’s standards for moral conduct are not
  9. suspended when we deal with family matters.
  10. 13:21-24 David was angry with Amnon for raping Tamar, but
  11. David did not punish him. David probably hesitated because
  12. (1) he didn’t want to cross Amnon, who was his firstborn son
  13. (1 Chronicles 3:1) and therefore next in fine to be king, and
  14. (2) David was guilty of a similar sin himself in his adultery with
  15. Bathsheba. While David was unsurpassed as a king and military
  16. leader, he lacked skill and sensitivity as a husband and father.
  17. 13:3 Hebrew Shimeah (also in 13:32), a variant spelling of Shimea; compare 1 Chr 2:13.
  18. 13:6 Or a couple of cakes; also in 13:8, 10.
  19. 13:18 Or a robe with sleeves, or an ornamented robe. The meaning of the Hebrew is uncertain.
  20. 13:20 Absalom tried to comfort Tamar and persuade her not
  21. 13:21 Dead Sea
  22. 13:27 As in Greek and Latin versions (compare atso Dead Sea Scrolls); the Hebrew text omits this sentence.
  23. 13:34 As in Greek version; Hebrew reads from the road behind him. after Absalom.

Life Application Notes 3 notes

13:3-5Amnon was encouraged by his cousin Jonadab to commit sexual sin. We may be more vulnerable to the advice of our relatives because we are close to them. However, we must make sure to evaluate every piece of advice by Ged’s standards, even when it comes from relatives.

13:16Rape was strictly forbidden by God (Deuteronomy 22:28, 29), Why was sending Tamar away an even greater crime? By throwing her out, Amnon made it look as if Tamar had made a shameful proposition to him, and there were no witnesses on

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Profile: Amnon

Amnon was king David's firstborn son, born and raised during the years between David's tise to fame and his rise to power. He grew into a prince with too much time on his hands and too little contro! over his thoughts. Amnon set in motion one of the most shameful and destructive series of actions in the royal family. He allowed himself to become obsessed with sexual desire for his half sister Tamar. When his attempt to seduce Tamar failed, he raped her. Then his “desire” for her became loathing and he humiliated her. He even made it look like the incest was his sister's fault. Tamar’s full brother Absaiom later avenged her shame by killing Amnon. David was an ineffective father. He failed to train or discipline his children. Although he found out and was furious about Amnon’s actions, he did nothing. Amnon, like the rest of his siblings, was a child out of control. He was frustrated when he couldn’t have his way, yet was disgusted when he did get his way. Without direction, his actions led to self-destruction. The Bible records not even a hint of remorse for what he had done to Tamar. Family relationships can be sources of strength or systems of dysfunction. We can think about childhood by counting scars and nightmares. or by remembering security and dreams. We may be creating in our own children one or the other of these histories. In what specific ways have you been settling the painful issues of the past in your own life? In what ways are you contributing to a better past for your children?

Weaknesses and mistakes

Allowed lustful desires to dominate his life

• Listened to his cousin Jonadab’s bad advice

• Raped and then rejected his half sister, Tamar

• Children who have everything often lack purpose and direction in their lives

• Thoughts and impulses turn self-destructive if not controlled or channeled

• Parents contribute good or evil by action or inaction in their children’s lives

• The distance between lust and hatred is very short

Lessons from his fife

© Where: Hebron © Occupation: Prince

• Relatives: Father: David. Mother: Ahinoam. Many half brothers including Absalom, Adonijah, and Solomon. Half sister: Tamar

• Contemporaries: Nathan, Jonadab, Joab, Ahithophel, Hushai

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Key verse

“Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. ‘Get out of here!’ he snarled at her” (2 Samuel 13:15).

Amnon’s story is told in 2 Samuel 13:1-39. He is also mentioned in 2 Samuel 3:2 and 1 Chronicles 3:1.

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