Notes
1. Quoted in Danni Moss, “Paige Patterson’s Views on Domestic Violence,” https://dannimoss.wordpress.com/clergy-abuse-links/abuse-in-the-church/paige-pattersons-views-on-domestic-violence/ (accessed August 10, 2015).
CHAPTER 1: MOVING BEYOND HEADSHIP DEBAT ES
1. John Piper, quoted in “What the Bible Says about Gender Roles: A Debate,” Discernment 4, no. 1 (Winter 1996), www.wheaton.edu/~/media/Files/Centers-and-Institutes/CACE/discernment/FamilyValues.pdf (accessed August 10, 2015).
2. Joseph Benson, The Life of the Rev. John W. de la Flechere (London: Thomas Cordeux, 1817), 289.
3. Robertson McQuilkin, “Muriel’s Blessing,” Christianity Today, February 5, 1996, www.christianitytoday.com/ct/1996/february5/6t2032.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
4. Ibid.
5. Ibid.
6. Ibid.
7. Ibid.
8. Cited in Dave Boehi, “Till Death Do Us Part,” Family Life, www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/commitment/till-death-do-us-part (accessed August 11, 2015).
9. Quoted in Catherine Failoni, “An Unconditional Love,” https://cfailoni.wordpress.com/non-fiction-story/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
CHAPTER 2: POLLUTION IN PARADISE
1. Word of Life Youth and Family Camps, website description, http://camps.wol.org/island/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
2. Kathryn Joyce, “Biblical Battered Wife Syndrome: Christian Women and Domestic Violence,” June 18, 2009, http://religiondispatches.org/biblical-battered-wife-syndrome-christian-women-and-domestic-violence/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. Cited in Justin S. Holcomb and Lindsey A. Holcomb, Is It My Fault? Hope and Healing for Those Suffering Domestic Violence (Chicago: Moody, 2014), 22.
4. Bryce Laliberte, “Eve, the Original Feminist,” August 28, 2013, anarchopapist.wordpress.com (no longer on the web).
5. Raymond C. Ortlund Jr., “Male-Female Equality and Male Headship,” in Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical Feminism, ed. John Piper and Wayne Grudem (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2006), 107.
6. Walter M. Miller Jr., A Canticle for Leibowitz (1959; repr., New York: HarperCollins, 2006), 242.
CHAPTER 3: MUTUALITY IN LIVING COLOR
1. Ruth A. Tucker, Women in the Maze (Carol Stream, IL: InterVarsity, 1992), 133.
2. Quoted in Bob Allen, “Panel Urges ‘Complementarians’ to Practice What They Preach,” April 24, 2012, http://baptistnews.com/ministry/congregations/item/7156-panel-urges-complementarians-to-practice-what-they-preach (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. John Piper, “The Beautiful Faith of Fearless Submission,” April 15, 2007, www.desiringgod.org/sermons/the-beautiful-faith-of-fearless-submission (accessed August 11, 2015).
4. John Piper, “A Vision of Biblical Complementarity,” in Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: A Response to Evangelical Feminism, 2nd ed., ed. John Piper and Wayne Grudem (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2006), 52.
5. Cited in Kathryn Joyce, “ ‘Biblical Manhood’ Conference Espouses Male Supremacy,” July 3, 2008, http://religiondispatches.org/biblical-manhood-conference-espouses-male-supremacy/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
6. John Chrysostom, Homily: “The Kind of Women Who Ought to be Taken as Wives,” Patrologia Graeca 51.230.
7. Ibid.
8. Ruth A. Tucker, Private Lives of Pastors’ Wives (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1988), 153–54.
9. Gustav Niebuhr, “Southern Baptists Declare Wife Should ‘Submit’ to Her Husband,” New York Times, June 10, 1998, www.nytimes.com/1998/06/10/us/southern-baptists-declare-wife-should-submit-to-her-husband.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
10. Quoted in Irwin T. Hyatt Jr., Our Ordered Lives Confess: Three Nineteenth-Century Missionaries in East Shantung (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1976), 104–5.
11. Cited in Patricia Gundry, Heirs Together: Applying the Biblical Principle of Mutual Submission in Your Marriage (Grand Rapids: Suitcase Books, 1999), 168.
1. Ruth A. Tucker, Dynamic Women of the Bible: What We Can Learn from Their Surprising Stories (Grand Rapids: Baker, 2014), 29.
2. Carolyn Custis James, The Gospel of Ruth: Loving God Enough to Break the Rules (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2008), 30.
3. Quoted in John W. Miller, “The Problem of Men, Reconsidered,” in Does Christianity Teach Male Headship? ed. David Blankenhorn, Don S. Browning, and Mary Stewart Van Leeuwen (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2004), 65.
4. Ibid., 66.
5. Kathryn Joyce, “Inside the Duggar Family’s Conservative Ideology,” Newsweek, March 16, 2009, www.newsweek.com/inside-duggar-familys-conservative-ideology-76547 (accessed August 11, 2015).
6. Greg Gibson, “5 Reasons Why Getting Married Young Is Still a Good Thing,” http://cbmw.org/men/manhood/5-reasons-why-getting-married-young-is-still-a-good-thing/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
7. “Tim Fall Critiques Owen Strachan’s ‘New’ Dateship: Second Verse, Same as the First,” September 22, 2014, http://thewartburgwatch.com/2014/09/22/tim-fall-critiques-owen-strachans-new-dateship-second-verse-same-as-the-first/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
8. See Libby Anne, “Child Marriage and the Rest of the Maranatha Story,” December 2, 2013, www.patheos.com/blogs/lovejoyfeminism/2013/12/the-rest-of-the-maranatha-story.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
9. Quoted in Julie Anne, “Christian Domestic Discipline (Wife Spanking): A Personal Story, and a Closer Look at Patterns Connected with This Abusive Practice,” October 5, 2014, http://spiritualsoundingboard.com/2014/10/05/christian-domestic-discipline-wife-spanking-a-personal-story-and-a-closer-look-at-patterns-connected-with-this-abusive-practice/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
10. Russell D. Moore, “After Patriarchy, What? Why Egalitarians Are Winning the Gender Debate,” Journal of the Evangelical Theological Society 49, no. 3 (September 2006): 573–74, emphasis in original, www.etsjets.org/files/JETS-PDFs/49/49-3/JETS_49-3_569-576_Moore.pdf (accessed August 11, 2015).
11. Carolyn Osiek, “Did Early Christians Teach, or Merely Assume, Male Headship?” in Does Christianity Teach Male Headship? ed. David Blankenhorn et al. (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2004), 27.
CHAPTER 5: WHAT IF WOMEN RULED THE WORLD?
1. “Germaine Greer,” Wikipedia, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ Germaine_Greer (accessed September 22, 2015).
2. Carolyn Gregoire, “How Men and Women Process Emotions Differently,” The Huffington Post, January 25, 2015, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/25/how-men-and-women-process_n_6510160.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. David M. Scholer, “Dealing with Abuse,” http://godswordtowomen.org/scholer.htm (accessed August 11, 2015).
4. Ibid.
5. “Junia,” Wikipedia, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Junia.
6. Stephen Lamb, “Some Thoughts on Bobbed Hair, Bossy Wives, and Women Preachers,” February 7, 2012, www.jslweb.com/blog/2012/02/07/some-thoughts-on-bobbed-hair-bossy-wives-and-women-preachers/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
7. Quoted in ibid.
8. Cited in Rachel Held Evans, “Inside Mark Driscoll’s Disturbed Mind,” July 29, 2014, http://rachelheldevans.com/blog/driscoll-troubled-mind-william-wallace (accessed August 11, 2015).
9. Abigail James, “ ‘We Men Are Too Machista’: Pope Francis Urges Men to Listen to Women’s Ideas More,” Catholic Online, January 19, 2015, www.catholic.org/news/hf/faith/story.php?id=58459 (accessed August 11, 2015).
CHAPTER 6: WAS JOHN CALVIN A FEMINIST?
1. The account of John Calvin and Renée of Ferrara is drawn from Roland H. Bainton, Women of the Reformation: In Germany and Italy (Minneapolis: Augsburg, 1971).
2. Cited in Ruth A. Tucker, “John Calvin and the Princess,” Christian History, September 3, 2009, www.christianitytoday.com/ch/bytopic/women/johncalvinandtheprincess.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. David Van Biema, “The New Calvinism,” Time, March 12, 2009, http://content.time.com/time/specials/packages/article/0,28804,1884779_1884782_1884760,00.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
4. Austin Fischer, “Dear John Piper,” Purple Theology, March 7, 2014, http://purpletheology.com/dear-john-piper/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
5. See description on the website at www.desiringgod.org/books/john-calvin-and-his-passion-for-the-majesty-of-god (accessed August 11, 2015).
6. “Letter from Calvin to an Unknown Woman,” June 4, 1559, Calvini Opera, XVII, col. 539, in The Register of the Company of Pastors of Geneva in the Time of Calvin, ed. P. E. Hughes (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1966), 344–45.
7. Cited in Thea B. Van Halsema, This Was John Calvin (Grand Rapids: Baker, 1981), 113.
8. James McClendon, Biography as Theology: How Life Stories Can Remake Today’s Theology (Nashville: Abingdon, 1974), 14.
9. Philip C. Holtrop, The Bolsec Controversy (Lewiston, NY: Mellen, 1993), 669.
10. John Calvin, Commentary on the Epistles of Paul to the Corinthians, vol. 1 (Grand Rapids: Baker, 2003), 357–58.
11. Cited in Tucker, “John Calvin and the Princess.”
12. Ibid.
13. Ibid.
14. Mary Stewart Van Leeuwen, “Whose Hospitality? Whose Kingdom?” Stob Lectureship at Calvin College and Seminary, November 4, 2003, http://bluechristian.blogspot.com/2007/10/whose-hospitality-whose-kingdom-womens.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
15. Abstract of Ann W. Annis and Rodger R. Rice, “A Survey of Abuse Prevalence in the Christian Reformed Church,” Journal of Religion & Abuse 3 (June 2002): 7–40, www.freepaperdownload.us/1745/Article1487484.htm (accessed August 11, 2015).
16. Ronald H. Fritze, “Married with Children: Wittenberg Style,” Age of the Reformation, February 8, 2010, www.corndancer.com/fritze/reformation/refmaton_arch/refmaton_katie.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
17. Susan C. Karant-Nunn and Merry E. Wiesner-Hanks, Luther on Women: A Sourcebook (New York: Cambridge University Press, 2003), 13.
18. Cited in Roland Bainton, Here I Stand: A Life of Martin Luther (1950; repr., Nashville: Abingdon, 1990), 299.
1. Nicole Flatow, “South Carolina Prosecutors Say Stand Your Ground Doesn’t Apply to Victims of Domestic Violence,” October 14, 2014, http://thinkprogress.org/justice/2014/10/14/3579407/south-carolina-prosecutors-say-stand-your-ground-doesnt-applyto-victims-of-domestic-violence/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
2. Jone Johnson Lewis, “Rule of Thumb and Wife-Beating—Mostly a Myth,” http://womenshistory.about.com/od/mythsofwomenshistory/a/rule_of_thumb.htm (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. Reva B. Siegel, “ ‘The Rule of Love’: Wife Beating as Prerogative and Privacy,” Yale Law School Faculty Scholarship Series (January 1, 1996): 2119, http://digitalcommons.law.yale.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2092&context=fss_papers (accessed August 11, 2015).
4. Ibid., 2118.
5. Ibid.
6. Barbara Sapinsley, The Private War of Mrs. Packard: The Dramatic Story of a Nineteenth-Century Feminist (New York: Kodansha, 1995), 66, emphasis added.
7. Ibid., 69.
8. Ibid., 71.
9. Ibid., 79.
10. Katharine Bushnell, “Oikodespotēs,” God’s Word to Women, https://godswordtowomen.wordpress.com/tag/oikodespotes/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
11. Sapinsley, 7.
12. Quoted in ibid.
13. Ruth A. Tucker, Leadership Reconsidered: Becoming a Person of Influence (Grand Rapids: Baker, 2008), 168.
14. Cited in Michigan Officer Involved Domestic Violence Project, http://michiganoidv.blogspot.com/1994/08/officer-clarence-ratliffgrand-rapids.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
15. Cited in Bob Allen, “Southern Baptist Pastor Charged with Domestic Violence,” November 20, 2007, www.ethicsdaily.com/southern-baptist-pastor-charged-with-domestic-violence-cms-11914 (accessed August 11, 2015).
16. Quoted in “Mary Winkler,” Wikipedia, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Winkler#cite_note-4 (accessed August 11, 2015).
17. Ibid.
18. Ellen Goodman, “No Acceptable Excuse for Murder,” Chicago Tribune, May 28, 1989, http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1989-05-28/features/8902040956_1_first-female-judge-role-models-police-officer (accessed August 11, 2015).
19. “Officer Clarence Ratliff—Grand Rapids PD,” Sunday, March 16, 1975, http://michiganoidv.blogspot.com/1975/03/officer-clarence-ratliff-grand-rapids.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
20. Goodman, “No Acceptable Excuse.”
CHAPTER 8: STANDING AGAINST CULTURAL MISOGYNY
1. Dean Flemming, Contextualization in the New Testament: Patterns for Theology and Mission (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity, 2005), 135.
2. Cited in Joel Stephen Williams, “A Study of Galatians 3:28: The Role of Men and Women in the Church and the Home,” http://www.afn.org/~afn52344/longer1.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. Dana L. Robert, American Women in Mission: A Social History of Their Thought and Practice (Macon, GA: Mercer University Press, 1996), 230.
4. Quoted in James Karanja, The Missionary Movement in Colonial Kenya: The Foundation of Africa Inland Church (Göttingen: Cuvillier Verlag, 2009), 92–93.
5. Janice Boddy, Civilizing Women: British Crusades in Colonial Sudan (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 2007), 243.
6. Nina Strochlic, “The U.S. Female Genital Mutilation Crisis,” February 6, 2015, www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/02/06/female-genital-mutilation-skyrockets-in-the-u-s.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
7. Clover Hope, “President Obama Delivers an Intense Grammys PSA on Domestic Abuse,” February 8, 2015, http://jezebel.com/president-obama-delivers-an-intense-grammys-psa-on-dome-1684590013 (accessed August 11, 2015).
8. Richard Land, “Was the Apostle Paul a Misogynist?” February 27, 2015, www.christianpost.com/news/was-the-apostle-paul-a-misogynist-134803/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
9. Pearl S. Buck, The Exile (New York: Reynal & Hitchcock, 1936), 283.
10. Dorothy L. Sayers, “The Human-Not-Quite-Human,” in Are Women Human? Penetrating, Sensible, and Witty Essays on the Role of Women in Society (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 2005), 68.
CHAPTER 9: FIFTY SHADES OF RAPE
1. Saint Augustine, The City of God, book 1, chap. 19, www.newadvent.org/fathers/120101.htm (accessed August 11, 2015).
2. Laura Stampler, “The (Un)Speakability of Rape: Shakespeare’s Lucrece and Lavinia” (Stanford University Honors Thesis, May 14, 2010), 25.
3. Ibid., 24, 28.
4. William Shakespeare, The Poems: Venus and Adonis, The Rape of Lucrece, The Phoenix and the Turtle, The Passionate Pilgrim, A Lover’s Complaint, ed. John Roe (1992; repr., New York: Cambridge University Press, 2006), 212.
5. Cited in Igor Volsky, “Todd Akin’s Pathetic Attempt to Defend ‘Legitimate Rape’ Goes Down in Flames,” July 17, 2014, http://thinkprogress.org/election/2014/07/17/3461252/todd-akins-pathetic-attempt-to-defend-legitimate-rape-goes-down-in-flames/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
6. Samantha Coerbell, “The Romanticization,” The International Journal of Multicultural Studies 7.1 (Fall–Winter 1999), www.colorado.edu/journals/standards/V7N1/POETRY/coerbell3.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
7. Mimi Haddad, “Fifty Shades of Grey: A Trilogy of Deceit, Collusion, and Domination,” February 14, 2015, http://www.cbeinternational.org/resources/article/fifty-shades-grey?page=show (accessed August 11, 2015).
8. Cited in Susan Estrich, Real Rape (Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1987), 72.
9. Lizzie Crocker, “Virginia Legislator Running for Congress Says Spousal Rape Should Be Legal,” January 16, 2014, www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/01/16/virginia-legislator-running-for-congress-says-spousal-rape-should-be-legal.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
10. Quoted in Rachel Held Evans, “The Gospel Coalition, Sex, and Subordination,” July 18, 2012, http://rachelheldevans.com/blog/gospel-coalition-douglas-wilson-sex (accessed August 11, 2015).
11. J. Lee Grady, “The Dark Side of Wives Submitting to Husbands,” August 7, 2013, www.charismamag.com/blogs/fire-in-my-bones/7229-the-dark-side-of-submission (accessed August 11, 2015).
12. Bethan Lloyd-Jones, Memories of Sandfields (Edinburgh: Banner of Truth, 1983), 9, www.carolbrandt.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/Martyn-Lloyd-Jones.pdf (accessed August 11, 2015).
13. Quoted in Michael A. G. Haykin, The Christian Lover: The Sweetness of Love and Marriage in the Letters of Believers (Lake Mary, FL: Reformation Trust, 2009), 86–87.
CHAPTER 10: RISKY OR RELIABLE?
1. Terry A. Moore, “Couples Counseling: Putting Victims Directly in Harm’s Way,” www.abuseeducation.org/couples_counseling.pdf (accessed August 11, 2015).
2. John Piper, “Clarifying Words on Wife Abuse,” December 19, 2012, www.desiringgod.org/articles/clarifying-words-on-wife-abuse (accessed August 11, 2015).
3. Ibid.
4. Quoted in Kathryn Joyce, “Biblical Battered Wife Syndrome: Christian Women and Domestic Violence,” June 18, 2009, http://religiondispatches.org/biblical-battered-wife-syndrome-christian-women-and-domestic-violence/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
5. James Carville and Mary Matalin, Love and War (New York: Penguin, 2013).
6. Andrew Malcolm, “Dear Abby: How Do Mary Matalin and James Carville Stay Married without Homicide?” December 27, 2009, http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/washington/2009/12/mary-matalin-james-carville-marriage.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
1. Arienne Thompson, “Meredith Vieira Reveals History of Domestic Violence, Explains Why She Stayed,” September 17, 2014, http://entertainthis.usatoday.com/2014/09/17/meredith-vieira-reveals-past-abusive-relationship-explains-why-she-stayed/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
2. Ibid.
3. Ibid.
4. Ibid.
5. Elsa Walsh, Divided Lives: Public and Private Struggles of Three American Women (New York: Anchor, 1995).
6. Cited in Martin Chilton, “Charles Dickens—the ‘Abuser’ of Women?” February, 6, 1012, Telegraph, http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/charles-dickens/9055188/Charles-Dickens-the-abuser-of-women.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
7. Cited in Charles H. Jones, A Short Life of Charles Dickens with Selections from His Letters (New York: Appleton, 1880), 200.
8. Essie Fox, “Charles Dickens and His Women,” February 7, 2014, http://virtualvictorian.blogspot.com/2012/02/charles-dickens-and-his-women.html (accessed August 11, 2015).
9. Cited in A. B. Hopkins, Elizabeth Gaskell, Her Life and Work (London: Lehmann, 1952), 152.
10. Cited in Judith Johnston, “Women and Violence in Dickens’ Great Expectations,” Sydney Studies 18 (1992): 96, http://openjournals.library.usyd.edu.au/index.php/SSE/article/view/482/455 (accessed August 11, 2015).
11. Charles Dickens, Great Expectations (Harmondsworth: Penguin, 1965), 147.
12. Johnston, “Women and Violence,” 104.
13. Times Staff Writer, “O.J. Simpson White Bronco Chase: How It Happened, Minute by Minute,” Los Angeles Times, June 17, 2014, http://touch.latimes.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-80536397/ (accessed August 11, 2015).
1. Jean-Paul Sartre, Existentialism and Human Emotions (New York: Kensington, 1987), 23.
2. Michael J. Sullivan, Heir of Novron (New York: Orbit, 2012), 737.